I read the other day there are three aspects of “well-being”:
- Connection with community or friends or family or partners
- Freedom (every day you make more decisions for yourself instead of relying or being dependent on the decisions of others)
It doesn’t say “Improve yourself”. It just says “Improvement”.
Because if you improve at anything, you are improving yourself.
And the way you do anything is the way you do everything.
I’ve had to improve at investing, interviewing, writing, selling, negotiating, creativity, public speaking, leadership, programming — all just to survive.
I’ve had to improve at chess, comedy, poker, parenting, being a good husband/boyfriend, reading, friendship, charisma, authenticity — all because I wanted to.
I realized quickly that the “language” of getting good at one thing taught me the basic grammar to get good at everything.
The way you do anything is the way you do everything.
You can’t. It’s really hard to change. I’ve been an addict.
When you’re addicted to a drug you can’t just say, “Well, this is bad for me. I’m going to stop.”
Just give up now or be ready to go through a world of pain.
Or…You can. But it’s really hard and few people do it.
You can’t say, “I’m out of shape and I don’t exercise so I’m going to start exercising every day now for an hour a day.”
I started exercising three times a week. Some weeks two. Some weeks one. I knew that if I overdid it, then I would simply lose interest.
In any case, I lost interest. I hated it .
I stopped even though I knew that stopping would hurt me and not help me.
It’s really hard to change.
But…Here’s how you can improve in the next six months.
Remember this line: The way you do Anything is the way you do Everything.
*Featured post photo by Nathan Dumlao on Unsplash